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8 Reasons why people give up on their dreams

We all have some goals. We all want to be someone in our lives that will reveal our real selves to the world and will tell the tale of our hard work, longevity, capacity, patience and faithfulness.

We have different goals. Some are related to our physicality and some to our spirituality. If everyone has a goal and wants to create impact on their lives as well as on the world, why we see so many miserable souls around us? In other words, why most of the people could not achieve their goals? What possible circumstances could happen during their journey to the legendary that stopped them from using their full potential?

Following are the 8 most common and basic reasons why people give up on their dreams:

1- NOT BELIEVING IN THEMSELVES

People start thinking that they are not genetically or physically made to achieve what they have set for themselves. Some start thinking that their goal is far beyond their capacity limits. They fall in the dark well of doubt. They create a mindset that they don’t have in them what’s required to get their dreams done. This is the most basic reason why people give up on their dreams even before starting the process.

Instead of this people should believe in themselves. They should keep the thing in mind that every single thing our eyes are witnessing right now was once someone’s imagination who devoted their lives to bring that masterpiece in their minds into reality. So go big, set giants and never before considered dreams.

2- FEAR OF FAILURE

Once they conquer the castle of doubt in themselves, the new war begins; the fear of failure and achieving nothing in the end.

This is the most selfish reason why people could not craft the genius of their lives. Here’s why; a goal, in reality, is a thing that not only give you an immense amount of joy when achieved but it’ll also thrills you on the way of achieving it. All the pains you bear, all the difficult times you passed when you feel like losing everything, all the grindings will give you a unique happiness you’ve never sensed before. Others would see it suffering, you’ll see it like a blessing. So, the journey towards success is far more than merely achieving the final results. Most of the people do not understand this and care more about the final product than the joys of hustling and…..give up.

Keep a thing in mind—when you really start your pursuit with all the things you got, there’s a victory in each day, each hour and each second of your life.

3- FEAR OF BEING JUDGED

Well, now, someone has somehow won the war of doubt and fear in themselves. Now he must go smoothly on the road he rolling on. No; there is a little bit fear left in his mind. The fear of being judged by the people around them.

‘This would be too awkward’. ‘What uncle Ben would think I’m doing’. ‘What aunt Dawson, who lives on the other corner of the city and to who has nothing to do with my buisness, would think about me’. People start thinking about the opinions of the people they don’t even know properly. They feel a strange kind of fear in their guts. Ultimately, they try to do the things that will help them to fit in the society instead of getting cut free from the herd and start running their own race.

4- LACK OF DISCIPLINE

“Success is a process, not an event,”(Robin Sharma in The 5Am Club). It takes numerous patches of time containing struggle, grinding, patience and faith to conquer any giant work you want to.

Most of the people nowadays do not understand this simple yet important rule of life. They seek immediate results. And once they start training themselves for the mastery, they don’t regulate themselves. They do not stick to the process and the plan they have created to work on. Somedays long restless hours of ceaseless training, and the other days resting hours of zero work. This type of behaviour create complexities in their minds. The most dangerous effect of this behaviour is that they get bored or tired of the process as well as their goal and boom! They give up.

Instead, they should create proper schedules for the working and resting hours so the could move on with consistency.

5- COMPARISON

People start comparing their progress with the other participants present chasing the same goal or, mostly, the people who have already achieved the same goal(let’s say becoming a well known journalist). This generates thoughts is their minds that they are not doing good enough and start doubting their capabilities without knowing the reality that every human being on walking on the planet has different capabilities and capacities to scan and extract the things. So, instead of comparing, they should believe in their own selves so they can keep up the pace.

6- NOT TRYING AGAIN(once failed)

We all know this, failure is the part of success. If you’re not failing, you’re not learning. All the successful people and the titans of industries failed numerous times before they created the real masterpiece of their lives.

Instead of showing a positive behaviour, people give up once they fail. And sometimes people take their low progress as a failure too. Problem these days is that we take all those things as failures that did not turn out as we wanted them to be. Okay, it absolutely hurts when we fail but what differs the icons from the also-rans is getting up again when life bring us down.

7- FAKE EXCUSES

‘I don’t have talent’. ‘The thing I’m trying to achieve is too new to the society’. ‘I don’t have enough money(or resources)’. These excuses may produce in people’s minds in the beginning or maybe in the middle of the struggling phase. Well, these are relatable somehow but “where there’s a will, there’s a way”. Somehow, somewhere, there’s always a solution to the problems one’s facing on his road to glory, he just need to find it. People, when create these type of illusions and excuses, lower their progress and most of the time simply give up.

(My belief is that when you start walking with the purest heart and soul with deepest faith to achieve a thing, nature starts helping you and opens every door and clears every road.)

8- LACK OF AWARENESS

People sometimes do not pay attention to the happenings around them that are related to their goals and can open doors to the new possibilities. For example, if you’re trying to be a good chef, missing a free cooking class session happening in the town just because you weren’t aware of is really a big deal. Some of the people are shy or don’t have enough confident to get in and grab the opportunity. Introverts face this problem the most. So, people always should be aware of the happenings and events related to their field so they could get more benefits from them.

These are the most common reasons why people give up on their dreams and the world loses some real heroes and virtuosos who could’ve served millions of lives and leave a legendary legacy behind them.

Detoxify your thoughts; eat healthy food

The world has become very fast. This is the era of competition and struggle.

This rapidness of world is the main cause of depression and the generation of toxic thoughts in most of the people nowadays. This continuous grinding of society leads our mind to think we’re not doing good enough and we start comparing ourselves with others and start thinking about the things that would probably not happen ever. An excessive use of technology has played an important role in this case.

Our brain, no doubt, is the most important organ of the body which helps us think, take decisions and survive according to our environment. One bad thing about this complex yet important organ is that it is negativity biased. It scans the surrounding and focus more on the negative issues of our lives than the positive ones. Ultimately, we start overthinking and fear which ends up having toxic thoughts.

This process is occurred in a part of brain called Right Prefrontal Cortex(part of Prefrontal Cortex; an organ responsible for generating emotions). This, when detects danger or insecurity, starts releasing Cortisol(the fear hormone) which forces us to think negatively and we end up having the most possible toxic thoughts about a certain thing.

Contrarily, to create an equilibrium for this situation, our brain generates some ‘feel good’ hormones such as serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine which makes us feel more happy and develops good mood which bases the positive thoughts.

These hormones are automatically generated in brain when needed. But, to feel more good and detoxify our thoughts, we can manage a healthy food and nutrition intakes which contains the chemicals like caffeine, choline, vitamin B, carbohydrates, fats like omega-3s and tyrosine which boosts the production of dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine.

Following are some foods one can have in some specific amount to boost his good mood and happiness levels:

▪️Fish:

Having some amount of fatty fish like Salmon and Sardines regularly can help to prevent mind from negative thoughts. Fishes contains fatty acid omega-3s that helps the production of more grey matter in brain and helps improving the mood and decreasing the depression.

▪️Coffee:

Coffee contains high amount of caffeine and antioxidants. Caffeine helps creating serotonin which causes the happiness and mood boosts in us.

▪️Dark Chocolates:

Dark chocolate contains flavonoids , caffeine and antioxidants . Flavonoids and antioxidants have their other specific benefits but caffeine, as in coffee, boosts the happiness levels and positivity by generating serotonin.

▪️Turmeric:

The deep-yellow spice, mostly used as the main household spice in most of the Asian countries, has found as an important source for the generation of dopamine and serotonin which both improves mood, make us feel more happier and ease the depression.

▪️Lean Meat:

Lean meat contains tyrosine. Having lean meat like beef, chicken or turkey increases the level of tyrosine in our body which generate norepinephrine and dopamine. These two hormones enhances mental clarity, focus and mood.

▪️Eggs:

Eggs contain nutrients like choline and vitamin B(folate and B12). Choline helps creating a neurotransmitter called acetylcholine that boosts the positivity levels as well as the happiness levels in us. Studies have shown that having less amount of folate and B12 increases the depression. This risk can be reduced by having enough amount of eggs regularly which will provide us these two essential nutrients.

Besides having a perfect healthy diet, exercising regularly also increases the levels of serotonin and norepinephrine.

Exercising daily also causes the phenomenon known as neurogenesis which means that when we exercise, we produce new neurones in our brain which can help us feel more happy, alive and positive.