Yes. We all know it. 2020 was one of the hardest and most confusing year for the whole world. Australian fires, deaths of well-known celebrities, Beirut blast incident and most importantly, the Corona Virus pandemic which not only took hundreds of thousands of lives but also stopped the world totally for several months.
Luckily, in 2021, the life is returning to the normal gradually(in most of the regions). And we, as we always do at the end of every year, have made some of the so called new year resolutions for ourselves. I’m going to be healthier this year; I’m going to be wealthier this year; I’m going to give more time to my family this new upcoming year. But guess what? We DON’T. We just can’t do it, you know. Changing our whole attitude towards things in just one night is impossible.
Than what shall we do? Be the same? NO! Instead of making new year resolution, start making…
A New-Life resolution
Now, the main concept of what I’m about to explain contains some of the main ideas of a video from a well-know motivational speaker, Prince EA. He tells a story of a man who was going somewhere to deal with his daily life works. He found an egg. An eagle’s egg. He brought it home, put it among the chickens he had at his home. After a day or two, the egg cracked and the baby eagle came out. He started living his life with those chickens. He lived like them, he ate like them and even he used to fly like them(at some small height as chickens do). Gradually, the eagle got old. One day he saw something in the sky. A big bird gliding over the sky majestically. He asked other chickens about it. “Oh that? That’s an eagle. The king of all birds. The master of the skies. But we belong to the ground. Because we are just chickens. Just don’t worry about him. You would never be that,” the other chicken responded. And that eagle lived and died as a chicken. Because that is what he thought he was.
This new year, it’s time to change; it’s time to be the eagle. It’s time to be at the place where you belong. It’s time to get shifted. But the question is, how much time will you take to make that shift? Well, it just take a moment to take that decision of taking the flight and being the master of your life. But the most important thing is maintaining that character, that rhythm and that potential not only throughout the year, but throughout your whole life.
You see, we make a decision of change and we soon forget it. Our excitement of changing ourselves disappears after two days, or weeks or months. We just can’t hold it. That is why you need to make a New-Life resolution.
I’ve been telling in my previous blogs that success is a process, not an event. We have to stick to the process to get the better things done. We have to make our each day valuable. We have to learn and grow every day. This is how legend works. This is how master of fates work. Stop thinking about a certain day(31st December) as your change-day every year. Change yourself everyday. Work on yourself everyday. This is how things are going to get better. So…..
Say no to the new-year resolution and make a new-life resolution.
Self management means managing your daily actions, being constantly focused on your long term projects, managing your time and even managing your thoughts.
-Why Self-Management is Important?
Self management is the most basic block of the building of a successful, happy, fully lived and most importantly a “meaningful” life. We all know that we only live once, we’re not going to get another life here on Earth. And we’re trying our best to get the most out of it. Well, without self management, it is impossible to live the life at your fullest potential.
Following are some basic points that can clarify the importance of self-management:
When you start managing yourself
-You become more Positive and Clear about your Thoughts:
Studies have shown that more than 50 thousand thoughts cross through an average person’s mind everyday. Funny thing is that huge amount of these thoughts are not even our own. They are the negative impact of the surrounding on our brain.
When you start managing and controlling the thoughts that enter your mind and allow only those you want to get in, you’re mindset starts getting clearer. You start knowing more about the things you have to do and the things you don’t have to do(most of them are the ones you shouldn’t even think about). Your focus and perspective about life becomes clear and ultimately you start living a really meaningful life. You stop wasting time chasing unachievable things.
-Your Work Life gets Better:
It doesn’t matter if you’re doing a job, running your own business or you’re just studying yet, if you don’t have a proper management in it, you could never get the maximum output out of it. When you manage the proper time for different sectors of your work life, you less worry about the lack of time. You rather have more time to work on the details of your output which increase the quality of your work life and take it in the rare-air level.
-You create Harmony in your Relationships:
When you already had managed your time for work, you get to spend more time with your family and friends resulting in creation of a peaceful and happy environment in your relationships. Moreover, as you already had controlled your mind’s thoughts, you stop spending time with the wrong people and start spending more time with the people who truly care about you.
-You achieve Peak Health:
Being in the fittest condition you’ve ever been can be a complete game changer. It strongly effects almost every area of your life and strengthen it.
Well, most of us think that we already are healthy(maybe we’re right), but getting the peak health takes time, determination and most importantly—management.
When you manage your diet and your daily workout plans, you get yourself on the road to peak health. You become more curious about your diet; what nutrition or vitamins you should take or not; how many minutes or hours of the day you should devote to your workout plan.
In other words, you control your body completely and starts living a healthier life.
-You overcome your Spiritual World:
This is the era of confusion. Social media, somehow, can put some certain confusions about your religion or culture, which leads you to doubt it. This surely can cause you depression(in most of the people these days). When you manage your time for social media usage and control what type of content should appear on your screen, you make yourself free from these meaningless doubts.
-You are More Likely to Achieve your Goals:
We set certain goals in our lives to make sure we lived a meaningful life and we could make the most out of it. Ofcourse, this is impossible without self-management. Now, as you have conquered the worlds of your mindset, work, relationships and your spiritual world, what else has left that can hinder your struggle in achieving your life goals? Nothing….
So, start managing yourself, your daily rituals, your health and your work. It surely takes time but as we all know that “great things take time”.
Now a days, our youth is just wasting their time in meaningless activities without realising that there is a lot more to do in their lives. Self-management is essential to do these things.
Skill is a thing that can take you to your desired places. Whatever you want to achieve in your life, which mostly is getting an employment or establishing a successful business, is all based on skills. We see, now a days, most youth is unemployed and struggling hard for the jobs. Why do you think they don’t get the job even though they have good educational degrees? Well, there can be hundreds of reasons behind it but the main reason is ‘the lack of skills’ or the lack of experience. If those young people had enough skills, they would have gotten the job. Skill is the biggest and purest asset of a person. When you have a skill of some thing that you love to do, it’ll lead you to the main goal of your life. Skills expose your greatest self that’s hidden somewhere inside you. The more you nourish your skills, the more your doubts and fears decrease.
Why the Youth lack Skills?
The young people, these days, are trying to gain as much knowledge as they can. Stuffing their minds with words and not using their abilities to get the experience of the practical work of their respective fields of studies. Common reasons they give when asked why they actually don’t do the practical work of their fields are that, they don’t have resources, or they don’t have the right company to do the group work. Most importantly they think that it’s not the right time to do it yet.
Reasons are given, ignoring the fact that these challenges are the part of the skill development. These things challenge you and push you to your limits so that you could adopt more, learn more and create more. There is one more type of young people that don’t learn new skills because they are too lazy to do it. These people don’t have any idea that due to their ignorant behaviour, future could be so hard to them.
What Steps should be Taken to Promote the Skill Development in Youth?
Spreading awareness is the first step that should be taken to increase the skill development in youth, because most of the people don’t know the importance of the skills or what skills they should adopt that would help them in the near or far future. Voluntary works has to be done. Youth organisations are playing the most important role in this case.
Seminars should be held in schools, colleges and, most importantly, in universities because this is the part of students’ lives where they need this guidance the most. Young minds should be given opportunities through different creative activities to let them discover their talents. One of the most precise and affective idea is to hold workshops for teachers and teach them how they should guide their students about this critical topic of skill development.
Skills and Earning:
People can use their abilities to earn money through freelancing during their study days(mostly in universities). Doing this will help them becoming financially independent and will give them enough work experience to get a good job. Most importantly, they learn how to deal with customers and do their businesses more affectively.
Problem these days is that students don’t know what skills they have or need to learn to do freelancing. Therefore, spreading awareness is the first thing that has to be done. Young people can do designing, writing, video editing, photography, web designing and other creative things to earn money online. Videography and photography can help in earning money not only online but also in physical world. Whatever skills people have, they just need to polish them to get on the level of earning through them.
4 Necessary skills that might help Young people in the future:
1- Communication skill:
No matter what job you’re doing, what field you’re studying in or what business you’re running, if you have good communication skills than others, you’re already one step ahead of them(even if they’re working on a higher post than you). When you have good communication skills, you attract people’s attention and your business grows. You discover new opportunities by meeting new people. You explore more minds which results new creative ideas that you can apply on your practical life to make it better. So, make good relations with others and get to know new people.
2- Digital Literacy:
Technology is ruling the world these days. Hundreds of people are being replaced every month by just one machine who can do the same work in an affective and precise way. So, in future, when there would be machines to do every work, what kind of people would get hired for the jobs? Obviously, the ones who know how to operate these machines. Youth should have(atleast) the basic knowledge of modern devices such as computers.
3- Accessing and analysing the Information:
When you work or study, you have to collect and analyse different types of information. When you know where to get all this information and how to analyse it to get the necessary and affective information, you rule your field of study/work.
One can master the skill of accessing and analysing the information by researching lots of websites that provide good information of your respective field and also by getting in consistent touch with different social media platforms.
4- Management Skill:
In our practical lives, we face a lot of situations and scenarios. Keeping a constant balance between our work, family, friends, financial issues can sometimes go messy and complicated. When you know how to manage things in a perfect way, you dodge all these problems easily. Mostly, the people who have good management skills don’t really take these all things as problems.
Thing to keep in mind here is that nobody is born with all these skills. You have to learn them. So, keep struggling, learning new skills and polishing the ones you already have.
We all have some goals. We all want to be someone in our lives that will reveal our real selves to the world and will tell the tale of our hard work, longevity, capacity, patience and faithfulness.
We have different goals. Some are related to our physicality and some to our spirituality. If everyone has a goal and wants to create impact on their lives as well as on the world, why we see so many miserable souls around us? In other words, why most of the people could not achieve their goals? What possible circumstances could happen during their journey to the legendary that stopped them from using their full potential?
Following are the 8 most common and basic reasons why people give up on their dreams:
1- NOT BELIEVING IN THEMSELVES
People start thinking that they are not genetically or physically made to achieve what they have set for themselves. Some start thinking that their goal is far beyond their capacity limits. They fall in the dark well of doubt. They create a mindset that they don’t have in them what’s required to get their dreams done. This is the most basic reason why people give up on their dreams even before starting the process.
Instead of this people should believe in themselves. They should keep the thing in mind that every single thing our eyes are witnessing right now was once someone’s imagination who devoted their lives to bring that masterpiece in their minds into reality. So go big, set giants and never before considered dreams.
2- FEAR OF FAILURE
Once they conquer the castle of doubt in themselves, the new war begins; the fear of failure and achieving nothing in the end.
This is the most selfish reason why people could not craft the genius of their lives. Here’s why; a goal, in reality, is a thing that not only give you an immense amount of joy when achieved but it’ll also thrills you on the way of achieving it. All the pains you bear, all the difficult times you passed when you feel like losing everything, all the grindings will give you a unique happiness you’ve never sensed before. Others would see it suffering, you’ll see it like a blessing. So, the journey towards success is far more than merely achieving the final results. Most of the people do not understand this and care more about the final product than the joys of hustling and…..give up.
Keep a thing in mind—when you really start your pursuit with all the things you got, there’s a victory in each day, each hour and each second of your life.
3- FEAR OF BEING JUDGED
Well, now, someone has somehow won the war of doubt and fear in themselves. Now he must go smoothly on the road he rolling on. No; there is a little bit fear left in his mind. The fear of being judged by the people around them.
‘This would be too awkward’. ‘What uncle Ben would think I’m doing’. ‘What aunt Dawson, who lives on the other corner of the city and to who has nothing to do with my buisness, would think about me’. People start thinking about the opinions of the people they don’t even know properly. They feel a strange kind of fear in their guts. Ultimately, they try to do the things that will help them to fit in the society instead of getting cut free from the herd and start running their own race.
4- LACK OF DISCIPLINE
“Success is a process, not an event,”(Robin Sharma in The 5Am Club). It takes numerous patches of time containing struggle, grinding, patience and faith to conquer any giant work you want to.
Most of the people nowadays do not understand this simple yet important rule of life. They seek immediate results. And once they start training themselves for the mastery, they don’t regulate themselves. They do not stick to the process and the plan they have created to work on. Somedays long restless hours of ceaseless training, and the other days resting hours of zero work. This type of behaviour create complexities in their minds. The most dangerous effect of this behaviour is that they get bored or tired of the process as well as their goal and boom! They give up.
Instead, they should create proper schedules for the working and resting hours so the could move on with consistency.
5- COMPARISON
People start comparing their progress with the other participants present chasing the same goal or, mostly, the people who have already achieved the same goal(let’s say becoming a well known journalist). This generates thoughts is their minds that they are not doing good enough and start doubting their capabilities without knowing the reality that every human being on walking on the planet has different capabilities and capacities to scan and extract the things. So, instead of comparing, they should believe in their own selves so they can keep up the pace.
6- NOT TRYING AGAIN(once failed)
We all know this, failure is the part of success. If you’re not failing, you’re not learning. All the successful people and the titans of industries failed numerous times before they created the real masterpiece of their lives.
Instead of showing a positive behaviour, people give up once they fail. And sometimes people take their low progress as a failure too. Problem these days is that we take all those things as failures that did not turn out as we wanted them to be. Okay, it absolutely hurts when we fail but what differs the icons from the also-rans is getting up again when life bring us down.
7- FAKE EXCUSES
‘I don’t have talent’. ‘The thing I’m trying to achieve is too new to the society’. ‘I don’t have enough money(or resources)’. These excuses may produce in people’s minds in the beginning or maybe in the middle of the struggling phase. Well, these are relatable somehow but “where there’s a will, there’s a way”. Somehow, somewhere, there’s always a solution to the problems one’s facing on his road to glory, he just need to find it. People, when create these type of illusions and excuses, lower their progress and most of the time simply give up.
(My belief is that when you start walking with the purest heart and soul with deepest faith to achieve a thing, nature starts helping you and opens every door and clears every road.)
8- LACK OF AWARENESS
People sometimes do not pay attention to the happenings around them that are related to their goals and can open doors to the new possibilities. For example, if you’re trying to be a good chef, missing a free cooking class session happening in the town just because you weren’t aware of is really a big deal. Some of the people are shy or don’t have enough confident to get in and grab the opportunity. Introverts face this problem the most. So, people always should be aware of the happenings and events related to their field so they could get more benefits from them.
These are the most common reasons why people give up on their dreams and the world loses some real heroes and virtuosos who could’ve served millions of lives and leave a legendary legacy behind them.
The Dreamers 